There's an interesting world where you get where you want to go faster by backing off and not trying to control things. Often in leadership or in life, we want to control a scenario. We see the end result we're trying to get to and it's easy to rush rush rush to the next step to get there faster. We know what needs to be done, so we do it and lean in. But sometimes it's actually faster to get there by taking a step back, by asking the right questions, by being patient. um and you can get there in a much smoother way without it feeling forced um faster. I'll give you a personal example of this instead of a work one since we usually talk leadership from a work perspective. I have an almost 8-year-old. Getting him to bed some nights can be really hard. Um he's headstrong on the next thing he wants to do and the next thing and the next thing. And I can try to control the situation. Um, right? If you make that choice, then this and then this and that. Right? Lots of ways I can do it. And I can tell you anytime I do that, and I still do it, even though I know this in the back of my head, um, it takes way longer to actually make bedtime happen. Even though I know the steps that need to take place, when I try to force it, just somehow, inevitably, it takes longer. when I realize and lean in and don't pick my battles here to the fact that he has some need he's trying to meet, ask some questions and help him figure out how to get that need met, we usually get there a lot faster and a lot smoother. Um, and bedtime goes way better. So rather than trying to force get through this step and get through this step and get through this step um and like like I said, life or personal um but asking questions and figuring out what their need is and why they're getting stuck where they're getting stuck and helping them work through the problem, the solution, the challenge, whatever it may be, can really help your team members get where you want them to go faster and in a much better, smoother way than if you're trying to control the situation and dictate what needs to happen next and then next and then next. So in leadership in life, pick your battles, slow down, lean in, ask what good questions to help them process their needs and to move forward rather than trying just to move them forward. It develops them more and it gets you where you're looking to go way faster than you would have otherwise. [Music]