mindset is an interesting thing often we think okay I should have this mindset I should know that I should be grateful because there's an opportunity in this thing that I'm really upset about for example and so I just can't be angry or upset I just have to be excited about the opportunity if you take on that stance you often wobble one minute you're getting yourself a little happier about the excitement that you should feel and then you kind of get resentful that you're not getting to feel the anger you really do feel and it makes it almost impossible to actually make that shift there's another world that is true which is both of those things are true and if you can accept the and and not the or then you can actually shift your mindset a whole lot faster so I am angry and frustrated that whatever is happening to me is happening and I also see that there can be an opportunity in it and I'm excited about that opportunity if you can remember to change that to an and instead of an or there's not this I shouldn't be angry or I shouldn't feel what I'm feeling you're not denying yourself anything and it actually allows you to shift to that positive mindset a whole lot faster because you're not trying to deny yourself what you rightfully have which is a very real legitimate feeling both can and usually are true and if you can accept that both are true then it allows you to move to the more positive mindset and actually shift to it and living in it so don't deny yourself your feelings and emotions in a situation that you want to be more positive about know that both are true and allow yourself to shift in a realistic way instead of a forced way that often doesn't bring you the result you're looking for [Music]