Personality. Was it something you were born with or did your experiences shape it?

[Music] foreign [Music] Ty were you given it at Birth or was it shaped by your experiences I'm a True Believer that a lot of our personalities come from our experiences in life many of which in the core of who we are shaped a childhood from the experiences that we faced and as we grow up as we're molded into adults different experiences May tweak our personality but probably are not dramatically changing it unless you go through something traumatic why is this important well we talk about our personalities are ingrained and we can't really change them um but we can and here's why I say that so there's certain things maybe about ourselves that we would like to shift and change and be different change is not easy and the way to go about it is to start by digging into where did that aspect of your personality start how did it build what experiences shaped you that you react that way because again you reacted that way to experiences and it was useful to you when you did so why does your gut react that way now as an adult so let me give an example say your personality is pretty negative and you want to do something to become a more positive person it's great that you do um but what is the reason maybe that you're as negative as you are well maybe as a child you were in an environment where things always went the wrong way and you had to fight to get something you needed and even then it usually would go the wrong way so you grew up in an environment where you had to prep yourself for things going negative to protect yourself if you knew they might go wrong and you could put up that wall then you could Shield yourself from her pain and so you got so used to putting up that wall even when you didn't need to so as you got older but maybe there wasn't a problem you'd put up a wall just in case looking at all the risks or potential problems to protect yourself from any potential pain even when there was no pain so a lot of negative people have gone through something potentially like that when they're younger and they continue to put up walls as an adult so the question would be what does a kid drove you to put up walls and if you can understand that then you can start to allow yourself different sets of experiences than that and that's how you can shift your personality from being in that case one that's more negative and guarded to one that's more open to new ideas or positive or optimistic so is your personality ingrained at Birth probably not is it shaping your childhood probably and can you change it as an adult absolutely [Music] thank you foreign